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I disagree with this. You can see in many of his removals that he did not even give a reason, as there is none. Why did he remove the post about Luigi? He is certainly not a politician, nor is he a family member of one, afaik. What about the one of the blood of a backback of an Iranian girl? Is a backpack a politician? Does it represent politics? Are death children politics now?

But more important than that, ALL of the posts that that mod remove had had over 100 comments. If you go to the pics sub now, there are 0 posts left with that many comments. He removed ALL the engagement. As it is, engagement is the one thing that Lemmy needs, to keep it going. That is the #1 thing we need, engagement. And that mod is just removing all of it.

Pathetic. But whatever, I will touch some grass. If people are ok with having so much content and engagement deleted for no good reason, whatever. We are all used to it by now.

wit @lemmy.world 3mo ago

I tried using matrix yesterday. I really hate to bash open-source decentralized software but.. fucking hell, was it annoying. I tried 1 server/instance (nope.chat) that just wouldn't work. I created my account on the desktop, logged in. But then, when I tried to log in on my android, it woudln't work. I logged out, tried to log in on the desktop again and it wouldn't work. Password/Username incorrect. I use a password manager, so I am sure I was typing things correctly. That pissed me off right from the get go. It was linking me to some other website, and not nope.chat, which is a bit annoying and weird, for the average user, but whatever. I just gave up on that server.

Then, I created an account in another instance/server. Cool, logged in. Worked on desktop, though I had to manually change the server in the element/browser-UI, even when I got linked there from the instance's page. Whatever. I logged in on Android as well, but immediately got a bunch of errors, asking me to reset my account. (?????). Whatever, I reset it and it worked fine.

So now I do have a working account on matrix, but it is so fucking slow and clunky. Fucking hell. I hate this.

On the other hand, I created, around the same time, an XMPP account. SO EASY. SO PERFORMANT. SO FAST. Night and day difference.

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wit @lemmy.world 6mo ago

@return2ozma@lemmy.world , do you mind marking this as NSFW, please? We received remarks due to the unmarked image. You need to edit the post and check the "NSFW" section. I am unable to do that, even as a mod.

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wit @lemmy.world 7mo ago

I had no idea what Loops was. Nice I guess, though short form content is just not something with which I want to engage.

wit @lemmy.world 7mo ago

Sadly, this community is not as active as I hoped it would be when I created it. We (everyone, but specially lgbtq) should seriously move away from for-profit and corporate social media, but the masses have not yet received the memo.

Thank you for posting!

wit @lemmy.world 11mo ago

Oh ya, asymmetric relationships are horrible. You did good in stopping it. You will feel much better once you let time heal you.

Good luck brother.

wit @lemmy.world 11mo ago

As the other person suggested, look into Grindr. But also know that not everyone is a good person and not everyone is truthful. You should always practice safe sex. Look into PREP and always wear a condom. "Receiving his loads inside" is definitely something you should think twice. I would suggest to not do that, but you do you.

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wit @lemmy.world 11mo ago

I also have these bouts of depression. They come and go. What works for me is keeping busy. Just doing anything helps me. Just move. Laying in bed is the worst thing to do when that happens. This is my advice to him.

My advice to you is the following: Be there for him. That is all you can do. If you were physically close to each-other, I would suggest to just snuggle/cuddle. Human contact helps. But you are in a long-distance relationship, so that is a no go. Send him voice messages instead of chat? Let him know you like him. Let him know he is important to you. Let him know you are there for him.

Regardless, thank you for caring about him. Compassion, empathy and kindness are the best qualities anyone can have.

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wit @lemmy.world 11mo ago

I liked watching wrestling just to see all the muscular guys... Also, in school, I crushed on a few guys.

Though when imagining a family, I always pictured myself with a girl. Seeing myself with a guy was just.. weird and a little bit uncomfortable. I think that was internalized homophobia. When I imagine a "family" now, I definitely see myself with a boyfriend and not a girlfriend. In fact, I find the opposite now, picturing myself with a girl gives me the "yikes, disgusting".

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wit @lemmy.world 12mo ago

The goal of the community seems slightly different. And also the community name itself.

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wit @lemmy.world 12mo ago

Oh, I did not know about this. What a horrible name, in my opinion... I will keep !wheretopost@lemmy.world as I think it has the better community name.

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wit @lemmy.world 12mo ago

100% agree that this would be a nice job for AI. I have no idea how to do that though. If anyone wants to create a Bot that does this, please do so and let me know! I will do whatever I need to do on my end, if anything, to allow it on !wheretopost@lemmy.world.

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wit @lemmy.world 12mo ago

We have been very transparent about that and documented that in the wiki which is linked in the sidebar. But it seems few people ever read the Wiki and having it integrated like it is with Piefed would probably help.

Oh ya. I knew about that, and I am fine with that. Though I think having it behind a link is bad UI. People will not read it haha.. It should be presented on account creation, in my opinion. Just 1 sentence "This instance is ran on private hardware and may suffer some down time here and there" would suffice.

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wit @lemmy.world 12mo ago

Well, I got no reply and I didn't see anyone else in the "mods:" bit in the bottom of the sidebar on slrpnk.net. I understand that having more admins wouldn't help in this specific case, but it would help in others.

Regardless, having a public lemmy instance only ran by 1 person is, in my opinion, a bad practice. And please know that I am not personally attacking you. I am just stating my thoughts. This time you were out on a work deployment. Next time you could be sick. The next time maybe a family member had an emergency and you had to help. And the next time maybe your house caught fire or whatever.

Resilience and redundancy is extremely important in public lemmy instances. And SolarPunk is, in my opinion, all about community. There should be more (trustworthy) people with the same level of access as you do.

Regarding the price and all that, maybe that is an interesting discussion to have with the slrpnk.net community? And it would also be good to let slrpnk.net users know how the instance is being ran, what hardware, where, etc, so users can be an educated decision on whether they want to see an instance or not? Maybe providing that info on the sidebar would be nice?

But again, shit happens. Hopefully this serves as a learning event. If not, so much shit is going through the world, losing a lemmy instance is not something about which one should lose sleep.

EDIT: I may be missremembering about the whole "something similar happened a few months ago and my question about new admins was ignored"... I think that might have been on mander.xyz and not slrpnk.net. I really can't fully remember, but I think it was mander.xyz after-all. Sorry! The rest of the post stands though!

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wit @lemmy.world 12mo ago

I am a slrpnk user. Oh well, shit happens. What makes me a bit sad was that a few months (?) ago something similar happened. Slrpnk.net was down for aa day or two? Don't remember the exact amount of time. What I do remember is asking if there was intention of adding a second admin and making the point that it would be good to create that sort of redundancy. I was ignored.

Mid of july is basically 1 and a half months from now. Hopefully a new solarpunk instance emerges, one that is safer from such scenarios.

Enjoy your vacation and don't stress too much! Shit happens.

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wit @lemmy.world 1y ago

I hope you are doing better OP!