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@ tributarium @lemmy.world

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balancing seriousness and playfulness, exploration and diligence, being an individual and a network node

  • Why can't I do a single thing?

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  • Personally I'm fundamentally disconnected from any meaningful relationships with living things (people, animals, plants, the landscape) and addicted to the internet as a replacement. The only times I haven't felt the way you described is when I had social scaffolding around me. (And the wherewithal in terms of time and energy to pursue "self-actualisation.")

    I don't know, I always think about an extremely competent woman living a self-sufficient traditional lifestyle with all the skills to survive who just stopped eating after her grandchildren had to run away abroad. A life is a complex thing and it takes a lot of things to be tuned just right for a person to be functional. It's even too simple to say "we find meaning in social relationships" or whatever, we just need the right system of incentives and comforts and pleasure and pain and there's no single formula.

    I was self-actualising when I had love, understanding, time, and money. Now I'm missing some parts of that package, and none of them are things you can just will into existence, especially not at the cost of other things.

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    YSK to lose weight, fill up with foods low in caloric density and high in fiber, like fruits and vegetables. This can trigger satiety without the overload of calories and beats going hungry long term.

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  • I am always teetering on the edge of doing this, not because I think it's a good idea, but just because I really, truly love fruit...

  • Is there any closed source android app that you wish had a good open source alternative?

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  • Yes, I don't think I have another app but more features on some apps I use (Smartdock, Joplin, Librera, Rimusic) would be slightly life-changing.

  • Asklemmy @lemmy.ml
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    Do you think/feel that you are living well? Happily? Embodying your values and dreams? If so, how did this happen?

  • Anarchism and Social Ecology @slrpnk.net
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    Hope and Contradictions: My Year in Rojava (March 2024)

    web.archive.org /web/20240321171047/https://strangematters.coop/arthur-pye-rojava-reporting-preface/

  • Does anyone like the taste of dragon fruit?

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  • Jesus, why the downvotes? Someone give this man a dragonfruit. So much for friendly, casual discussion

  • Does anyone like the taste of dragon fruit?

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  • I disagree. I've only ever had luck with the white ones.

  • Does anyone like the taste of dragon fruit?

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  • I've done this and still only gotten lucky like 1/20th of the time. Very hard to tell when they're ripe and flavourful

  • Today I Learned @lemmy.world
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    TIL that in England, the highest rates of loneliness are among those under the age of 25

  • Privacy @lemmy.ml
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    Any alternative to in-browser full-page translations besides Google?

  • [Weekly thread] How is your week going? 11-03-2024

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  • Not too good. I had a half hour long conversation with a friend on the phone recently & I realised it's the first time I've had a phone conversation with somebody I actually wanted to talk to in months, except for that time I called another friend freaked out bc I was scared of my neighbour harrassing me. Not exactly the same giddy energy. This phone friend and I tried to meet up and got foiled multiple times. Shit's exhausting.

    My first edit to this post was "maybe I should take up gardening or sth but where to start" bc I want to be able to interact with and get feedback from just about anything besides my coworkers once in a while.

  • Fitness @lemmy.world
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    Assessing how to move outside of a program

  • Where do people make friends online today?

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  • Antiwork @lemmy.ml
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    Antiwork outside of the anglosphere

  • Where do people make friends online today?

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  • Lol no doxxing but in broad terms which lemmy communities did y'all meet in? Interest-based?

  • Where do people make friends online today?

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  • One of the recent Facebook whistleblowers said her version of social media was her & her friends sharing news articles in a Signal group chat. That's, like, my wet dream.

  • Where do people make friends online today?

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  • But I have no reason to believe Discord is even an iota less evil than Facebook.

    I wish I could loosen up and enjoy malicious tech but like I said, I just can't unring that bell, even though it makes my life meaningfully worse. Iykyk

  • [Outdated, please look at pinned post] Casual Conversation @lemmy.world
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    Where do people make friends online today?

  • DAE find the attitude of most pet-owners to be more repulsive than that of most meat-eaters

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  • Thanks for sharing all of this. I agree with you. TBD whether returning to social media will be a net good or a net evil in my life, but it's such a relief to be able to see people agree for once with what is such an obvious, high-stakes moral position.

    Edit: although I'm 100% on board with the book quotations I actually am not inclined to agree with a lot of the stuff in the first video. For one, I think sterilising human beings really is more of a practical than a moral limitation and I think he doesn't give enough space to the instances of where it actually happened. And for another--I started to type about how I disagree with him on civilisation being necessarily a positive unambigous transcendence or whatever, and then about how calling bacteria & sharks mindless is arrogant, but then he goes full anthropocentric in the end and says that humans in civilisation are the only ones who can live meaningful lives and all animals following their instincts (& people living outside of civilisation today & the vast majority of human history apparently) are just perpetuating meaningless suffering? This is an extremely narrow-minded, arrogant, parochial, self-aggrandising perspective. I'm surprised he advocates for wild living for animals when he has no curiousity at all about how the world actually works outside of the human city and countryside. Really reaffirms my dislike of talking heads, especially those with the comments turned off lol.

  • Isolated for six months, scientists in Antarctica began to develop their own accent

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  • In the article they talk about extremely subtle pronounciation changes. It doesn't seem like it was a conscious decision.

    I used to have a job where I was the only non-Indian on my team and I didn't go as far as to develop an accent (also I went home every day lol unlike these guys) but I felt like I was unintentionally picking up some Indian affectations/word orders.

  • Life 2.0 - children of engineers / Життя 2.0 - діти інженерів (February 2024)

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  • Good bot.

  • Music @lemmy.world
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    Life 2.0 - children of engineers / Життя 2.0 - діти інженерів (February 2024)

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    Life is actually really basic

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  • Antidepressants can have serious side effects that can persist even after stopping. Look up the Surviving Antidepressants forum. That doesn't mean don't use them, but it's just a truism that all pharmacological intervention has risks. To see randos diagnosing & medicalising someone for a lemmy post that isn't an obvious cry for help is...objectionable, and in poor taste, and imo diagnostic of some much larger problems, but I don't have the time to spare to argue that point. But people promoting what could be life-altering compounds as no biggie demands a response. (Again, my position isn't 'don't use antidepressants,' it's 'messing with your brain chemistry demonstrably can have serious consequences and is a serious decision.')

    edit: rephrased

  • DAE find the attitude of most pet-owners to be more repulsive than that of most meat-eaters

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  • Thanks for your response. It's not just the term "ownership" I am frustrated with, because there's a reason we use the term: it's accurate. I think in an ethical world we would be building a society and environment that allowed us to be good neighbours to cats (and all other forms of life) rather than forcefully assimilating them into our homes and taking away all of their freedom. I think veganism is a horizon most people have considered (even if just only barely) because of the brutality of factory farms but people hardly have the imagination to acknowledge the cruelty of what goes on in their own homes and alternatives (for obvious reasons: it's relatively easy to not eat animal products, very difficult for any one individual to make a non-human-friendly impact on the environment around them). I think the way you think about your cat is fair. What prompted my rant was the kind of attitude that someone who responded to this post earlier had--"are you kidding, OBVIOUSLY my dog loves me, OBVIOUSLY I am entitled to make decisions about its reproductive rights, because even though he's my best buddy he's my inferior!" I find the "I'll eat an extra steak for you" attitude vile but I almost never encounter it IRL whereas almost everyone I know will project the most convenient possible narrative and emotions onto their pets and praise themselves for keeping them. I mean, as I say in OP, it is what it is, it's arguably better for a cat to be indoors in this messed-up world. But only arguably and ambivalently so. It's most people's cavalier attitudes about it that I find to be inexcusable and diagnostic of deep cruelty.

  • DAE find the attitude of most pet-owners to be more repulsive than that of most meat-eaters

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  • Nothing says critical thinking like stumbling into a thread, insulting everyone, repeatedly announcing intuitions and entitlements without engaging any argument because duh, of course the mainstream view (that non-human animals do not deserve full respect/autonomy/consideration as individuals, that my self-serving intuitive projection of an animal's feelings is accurate) is self-evidently correct without any need to justify it, and then blocking the sub.

  • DAE find the attitude of most pet-owners to be more repulsive than that of most meat-eaters

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  • If you aren't a troll you're behaving like one. "Shut up, be normal, go outside" aren't arguments.

    Nobody is going to be able to convince you unless they come to understand where you stand on the morality of human beings being able to dominate and restrict one another's freedoms or on the richness of the interiority and moral value of non-human animals and tediously go through a deconstruction of the status quo worldview. Because, again, we've already gone through these questions and generally come to similar conclusions.

    As a general heuristic in life if I directly benefit from something, and especially if someone else affected by my profiteering can't talk back to me, I see that as a flashing red light saying I need to question things and can't take my motivated intuitions as fair conclusions.

  • DAE find the attitude of most pet-owners to be more repulsive than that of most meat-eaters

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  • I've been listening to Karen Bakker often lately (I may even read her book sometime) and if what she says about AI and other new technology being able to give us a method of interspecies communication is true...jesus christ, the moral revolution will be copernican.

  • vegan @lemmy.world
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    DAE find the attitude of most pet-owners to be more repulsive than that of most meat-eaters