For me it’s communication, honesty, openness, willingness to listen, and acceptance of where the person is coming from in their reactions and emotions. This is a result of childhood trauma and any long-term traumatic experience. CPTSD (complex PTSD), if you’d like to read about it. This kind of thing is learned below a conscious level so you can’t just logic yourself out of the reaction, it’s almost hard coded. Working together helps both of you figure out how to handle it, unfortunately there is no trick. It takes time and work and patience and love.
My partner and I got together in April of last year. I was 57 and he was 58. He is the love of my life. That person can come into your life at any time, don’t close the door on that opportunity for love. You ARE still young and have tons of life and love to share. It’s amazing the depth of emotion and connection you can share with the right person, I had no idea that older people had so much going on in their relationships.
People change, and when they change to the point that they are no longer the person you married, and you can’t work out how to stay that makes you both happy, it’s time to move on. No matter the age. There is no age limit on happiness and you only get this one life to experience it. I wish you the best.
A good one of these makes moving much easier and less painful and aggravating than the cheap ones or the plastic things. Just don't use it too long, take breaks if you're making a lot of boxes at once. You can stress your hand and wrist using it.
There's also a technique to it, which you can find examples of online. Try a few ways and see which works for you. Also practice helps. 😁
We were still in brown and yellow and there was no cotton. That uniform was hot and scratchy and reeked of fry oil no matter how often you washed it. The women's uniform was similar to https://www.worthpoint.com/worthopedia/tb221c-1983-mcdonalds-uniforms-4138233506. They're calling it burgundy but it was brown. Pure 70s brown. Yuk.
I worked at McDonald's in high school in 1983. Neither of those happened where I was, I made $3.35/hr and was given a uniform (polyester, bleh!) that I had to return in good condition when I left.
Of course my experience doesn't mean it never happened, it just wasn't overall what you described.
Agree completely about Heinlein. The opinions people have about what he would have agreed or disagreed with are baffling to me. It's like the only things they read are Moon is a Harsh Mistress, Starship Troopers, and Beyond This Horizon and they believe he was advocating a position instead of trying to get you to think and ask questions.
I'm so tired of the idea that "an armed society is a polite society" is any kind of good or that it is a society that should be longed for. Same for mandatory service.
They sent me one of these for a sub I was working on before making public. It had never been open. I wrote back and told them that and I don't know if they even noticed, but they didn't take it from me.
I subsequently never opened it and left completely except for one sub I still moderate. Assholes.
He beat Kirk twice!