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  • It was a blast

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  • ram aside I keep telling people that the aim of restrictions on allowing women to control their reproduction is that the best way to keep them from caring that you're raping and exploiting the laughably unsafe labor of their children is to make sure they have too many to care for.

  • People who have been to psych wards before, how was it?

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  • I wish I could clone you – <3, an inpatient psych nurse.

  • People who have been to psych wards before, how was it?

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  • yes the boredom will be the biggest problem and likely no electronics will be allowed. get a few good paperback books, a good puzzle book with some more variety than just word searches / sudokus, and bring a non-spiral bound sketchbook and some crayons (all psych wards will pretty much universally allow crayons vs if they're acute enough they may worry about hard plastics, but admittedly that level of acuity is somewhat rare) and practice your figure or still life drawing or just have fun scribbling if you like. also a great time to pick up origami as a hobby. If you ask nicely they will almost definitely play music for you but it might be in a group setting where you have to rotate choosing with the other patients.

    hi I've been working inpatient psych for almost a decade, ama! lol.

  • Capitalism only asissts innovation for the first few years of existence. After that its a grift.

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  • any new power structure can be good for the time it takes a generation to pass. after that people forget why they designed something a certain way and lose engagement with the political process. the only political and economic system that will ever be functional is one that is fundamentally founded on educating the populace on both their right and their responsibility to be involved in their own governance. the right to bear arms was a prototypical move to ensure people would always be able to enforce their right to self governance but without education in the importance of actually doing so it has ultimately failed to fulfill that purpose.

  • Whats the most Fediverse "Thing" you know of?

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  • there's already a !bestofredditorupdates@lemmit.online but a lot of instances block lemmit for being bot content since their whole purpose is to repost reddit content which like. bots are actually super useful for that kind of thing. A LOT of users don't seem to understand that they personally have the power to set instance blocks for their own account. so instead they push for defeds when like. just block the instance from your settings. it's a checkbox. it's not complicated! Sometimes I worry that all the defeds will create little insular echo chambers when the whole point of fedi is diversity.

  • Why does every married man I talk to about marriage benefits seem to feel that staying single is better?

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  • one of the many reasons I've heard is that men are unhappy with the financial benefits it entitles the woman to.

    IMO receiving money in the event of divorce is one of the few ways a woman is protected while living a "traditional" lifestyle; when she leaves the workforce to care for a home and children, she's both giving up a the opportunity to save and invest capital, AND she's giving up becoming experienced in her field. Giving up the experience means she that if she loses financial support and attempts to return to the workforce, she would have to do so in a junior role in her field, if she can find work at all. Things like alimony and division of assets are, at least imo, a completely fair compensation for the unrespected but very real work of homemaking.

    And while that's ultimately not a lifestyle that suits me personally, there are a lot of men who want a tradwife, but don't respect that that's going to require them to be a trad husband. One of the reasons I got married as a working / career oriented woman was that I thought my domestic house husband deserved financial security in payment for supporting my career. I think a lot of it really does just come down to the underlying misogyny of not considering homemaking to be a legitimate profession when it's been fundamental to society longer than written record.

  • What is the technical hill you are willing to die on in your industry?

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  • Abilify is a beautiful long term maintenance med but wholly inappropriate for an acutely agitated and combative patient.

  • Word.

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  • I straight up used draw.io to create a paper form. I needed high information density so I can't waste space formatting stuff the normal way, I need something more graphical and publisher got axed.

  • Professional Bubble-Wrap Popper

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  • big tobacco stopped paying

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  • here's a markdown formatted quit plan for your notes app (based on this) with bullets for common answers to the questions that you can delete if they don't apply / keep or add ones that do.

     
        
# Quit Plan

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## Quit Date
_Choose a date within the next two weeks._

**Quit Date:** [YYYY-MM-DD]

**What to expect**
- **1 week:** Nicotine is out of your system  
- **2 weeks:** Physical withdrawal symptoms fade  
- **1 month:** Habit- and emotion-driven cravings may continue  

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## Reasons for Quitting

- Feel healthier / Live longer
- Save Money
- See my kids grow up / set a better example
- Look healthier / smell better
- Reduce stress between uses


---

## Triggers
_Knowing your triggers helps you plan around them._

### Emotional
- Feeling stressed
- Feeling anxious
- Feeling down
- Feeling lonely
- Feeling bored
- After conflict

### Situational
- Talking on the phone
- Drinking alcohol
- Watching TV
- Driving
- Finishing a meal
- Drinking coffee
- Work breaks
- After sex

### Social / Environmental
- Bars or parties
- Social events
- Seeing someone else smoke

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## Coping Strategies

### If your hands or mouth need something to do
- Hold a straw or pen and focus on breathing
- Fidget with a coin or paperclip

### If you use tobacco to manage stress or mood
- Slow breathing or short bursts of exercise
- Talk it out with someone you trust

### If boredom or restlessness is the problem
_Keep a short “craving list”:_
  - [TASK]
  - [TASK]
  - [TASK]

### If you feel irritable or anxious without nicotine
- Consider nicotine replacement (patch, gum, lozenge)

### If you used tobacco for energy
- Light exercise
- Regular meals and healthy snacks
- Adequate sleep

### If you used tobacco for pleasure or relaxation
_Substitute another reward:_
  - Music
  - Movies
  - Saving money for something specific

---

## Remove Reminders
_(Before Quit Day)_
- Wash clothes that smell like smoke
- Clean your car
- Discard tobacco, lighters, ashtrays
- Place coping tools where tobacco used to be

---

## Support (Optional)
_Quitting is easier with backup._
- [NAME / ROLE]
- [NAME / ROLE]

---

## Personal Notes

    ...and if you're a transgirl I'd like to add to your reasons list that estrogen + smoking significantly increases the coagulability of your blood. I've had several transgirl patients with DVTs / PEs / strokes even who did not know that can happen!

  • What's the most painfully obvious thing you've seen have to be written out?

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  • Almost every other animal dies pretty quickly after having their last round of children / losing fertility, but humans live almost twice as long. Elders have a literal hardcoded purpose in human evolution.

  • 6🤷‍♀️7

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  • better than 66

  • My Religion

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  • idk I think people shouldn't be able to sell their children into marriages at 14 years old just because they don't share my beliefs that that's horrible. Meanwhile they think that an abortion harms a child in a way that outweighs b the mother's right to decide whether or not her body gets used as life support and I don't. I think whether or not it's important to meddle in other's private and family lives is actually a fairly complicated question.

  • Enshittification aside, any new technologies you find yourself relying on/using regularly?

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  • I'm using owncloud for that but (don't hate me) I'm having to use chatgpt a LOT for the initial configuration. There's a lot of stuff I'm having to learn to get back into it and it's really good at searching docs by fuzzy match, pointing out what part of a function block isn't working, and drafting individual function blocks to experiment with (I'll comment out the original, paste in the chatgpt one, test it, etc). It's a much better experience than a decade ago and I haven't gotten emotionally abused by a more experienced person on stack overflow or reddit once yet.

    I've got owncloud running as a lan only service so it just auto syncs my calendar, contacts, and a few folders of documents / pictures I like to keep with me but only whenever I'm home. Right now I'm just also configuring the same old computer to do some basic media / retro gaming on the TV and the hard part right now is configuring magic mirror as it's idle display to keep hubs and I straight on our calendars and tasks (and show some family photos). Nothing major just as I get back onto Linux after ten years it's nice to not get called lazy and stupid while I'm learning.

  • Reddit global rank is going down

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  • I'm also shocked to see that pornhub, xhamster, and xvideos are all 20+ entries down. Maybe the internet isn't for porn, at least anymore. What is this world coming to? LITERALLY???

  • World map with countries real sizes

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  • "...a Flemish geographer, cosmographer and cartographer. He is most renowned for creating the 1569 world map based on a new projection which represented sailing courses of constant bearing (rhumb lines) as straight lines—an innovation that is still employed in nautical charts." - Wikipedia

    Basically it was really cool and advanced geometry in the 1500s. Other fun inventions of the time included bongs, rifles, and knitting machines.

  • Assuming humanity last another few hundred years; How many human languages do you think are gonna be left in 100 years? In 200 years?

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  • I think there'll be one sinorussolatinglish trade language and 5k highly localized dialects of our current languages.

  • A Møøse once...

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  • yeah my mastectomy is on the books as alleviating back pain. and like. it did do that!

  • Radon

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  • Refreshments and Narcotics

    (an old joke about registered nurses)

  • Algospeak - Adam Aleksic / @etymologynerd

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  • oof you're right it sounds like a tough read but I'll definitely consider it

  • AssholeDesign @lemmy.world
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    Unhinged

  • Mental Health @lemmy.world
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    Helpful Mental Health Tips

  • Books @lemmy.world
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    Algospeak - Adam Aleksic / @etymologynerd

  • Oddly Satisfying @lemmy.world
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    a collection of animated GIFs on the composition of The Sacred Geometries

    kbin.earth /m/OphanimBagels/t/1922058
  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
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    What are some horror movies that don't make any sense outside of a narrowly specific cultural context?

  • Books @lemmy.ml
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    A Psalm for the Wild Built is so cute though. Like so cute that it hurts in the context of current events. And I'm like two chapters in. Is it possible to tag this like on mastodon so I can just