if there’s a lot of women in a room, that smell lingers even after they’ve left.
I could only see this being true if it was a small room and they were all masturbating. Or, if one of them had a particularly bad infection or something, in which case that's just a sign someone needs to go to the doctor.
I've never in my life smelled 'fishy' smells from a woman whose vulva my face wasn't touching.
During the night shift he could just lock out the turbolifts, flood the life support system with neurazine gas, and beam the crew into space for good measure. Five, ten minutes tops.
This situation sucks. I'm sorry this is happening to you, nobody should have to deal with this.
I want to visit him badly. But I am panicking already just thinking about what to say or what to do.
If you want to visit, you should. You don't need to say or do anything particular, just being there will mean so much to both of you. If you need something to say, I encourage you to 1. just tell him you love him, cry as much as you need to, and 2. listen to anything he wants to say to you now or anything he wants to ask you for. It's not easy now but you will find peace and comfort later in knowing you visited him while you could.
being in a situation where I can get the call every day, every minute …
It definitely hits extra hard for neurodivergent folk to have a Big Shitty Uncertainty like that. It impedes.. everything.
A small bit of good news is that it sucks for everyone when this happens-- losing family hurts-- so people at work, school, etc. should be understanding and give you some extra space/grace in this time. If you have anyone you're comfortable reaching out to for help, or to ask for some wiggle room while you're dealing with family health issues, reach out when you feel centered enough to. People will usually help and rally around you when you're going through something like this.
I'm again so sorry you're going through this. Remember to take care of yourself and if you can, keep some folks nearby who can send some care your way.
I could only see this being true if it was a small room and they were all masturbating. Or, if one of them had a particularly bad infection or something, in which case that's just a sign someone needs to go to the doctor.
I've never in my life smelled 'fishy' smells from a woman whose vulva my face wasn't touching.