I try to time my bathroom breaks with an empty glass. Then all I have to do is let people around me know that I’m coming back, so they don't offer my spot to random assholes.
I trust some people sometimes, but depends on the place and who is sitting next to me. Big biker dude who’s wildly intimidating but doesn't give me any bad vibes? Ill chance it if they are with a group and there aren’t reasonable looking ladies nearby (part of the group and i trust the group a lot more). Intimidating biker dudes genuinely tend to be good people, idk why, but they do. Moreso than your average pickup driver, for sure. Maybe because motorcycles tend to be community-based activities? Idk. Any insight would be helpful.
It depends heavily why i feel they look scary, ime.
Purely aesthetic? Probably chill; i assume you don't put on an intimidating aesthetic to become an abuser, that's stupid and counterproductive. Bad vibe? Probably not chill.
Then again people apparently find me, tiny little person I am, intimidating and I’ve never understood why. Guess I need to whip out the chanclas. Live up to it. Not Hispanic in the slightest, but if men are already intimidated…. 🤷🏻♀️
But also i mean i was that weird psuedo-goth (never came close to having the money to be goth, its so fucking expensive, so i winged it with thrift store stuff and creativity, i liked the look) so i get that looks are deceptive.