MrPoopyButthole

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6mo ago

"Not like this. Not like this."
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MrPoopyButthole @lemmy.world 6mo ago
"What?" Says the gf after I audibly grunt to this comedic masterpiece

6mo ago

A Vibe Coded SaaS Killed My Team

We're going to see more and more of this. The tools are getting a bit better but without expert supervision and limiting the use cases for LLM generation, it's going to be a shit show.

First of all, this must be really difficult and I wish you strength to come through this with hope and dignity.

I lasted 12 years with my ex through good and bad times. She had her own neurodivergences and I was not adequately handling mine. I caused a lot of shit by being absent, dissociated, unhelpful etc.

Blaming myself for the failure of our relationship is not helpful. It went the way it went because of who we were at the time. I use it as motivation and a chance to learn about myself and how to be better.

Being successful with ADHD requires a kindness and gentleness to one's self. I would ask myself "Would you say these things to a stranger? Would you say these things to a friend? Then why would you say them to me?"

One of the turning points for me was to stop putting myself last and to instead put myself first. If I am strong then I can be more dependable for others. I give myself the accommodations that I need. I stopped treating myself badly. I learned how to love myself. I stand my ground when others expect too much of me. These things were integral in becoming the person that my new partner now loves and respects me for.

When two people don't work out it's no one's fault. Each is betting on a future with someone that is an accessible attractive option and often that bet doesn't yield the results they wanted but that doesn't mean it wasn't worth the time that was had. We can't tell the future. No one is perfect. Perfection doesn't even exist. We're all just muddling through the day to day. Shakespeare asked is it better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all - and there is a clear answer - its better to have loved and lost, because it wouldn't be painful if there was no substance to it.

I'd hazard a guess that you guys are probably done and that the best thing for you is distance right now. After some distance and time you'll know if there is any future. You probably already know that though.