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MerchantsOfMisery

@ MerchantsOfMisery @lemmy.ml

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2y ago

Rebecca Cheptegei: Olympic athlete dies days after being set alight by ex-boyfriend | BBC
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MerchantsOfMisery @lemmy.ml 2y ago
I understand the point that person's trying to make-- can they, or you, understand the counterpoint I've made? I swear, men will do the most impressive mental gymnastics to avoid acknowledging the simple fact that most violence against women is committed against men. It's so pathetic.

2y ago

Rebecca Cheptegei: Olympic athlete dies days after being set alight by ex-boyfriend | BBC

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MerchantsOfMisery @lemmy.ml 2y ago

Why respond in bad faith like this? You're clearly playing dumb.

2y ago

Rebecca Cheptegei: Olympic athlete dies days after being set alight by ex-boyfriend | BBC

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MerchantsOfMisery @lemmy.ml 2y ago

Really having a hard time addressing the topic at hand, aren't you?

2y ago

Rebecca Cheptegei: Olympic athlete dies days after being set alight by ex-boyfriend | BBC

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MerchantsOfMisery @lemmy.ml 2y ago

Sexism is prevalent in right-wing spaces as well. I'd say it's more prevalent and predictable in right wing spaces, but it's still prevalent and IMO far more disappointing in leftist spaces from people who supposedly claim they're progressive.

2y ago

Rebecca Cheptegei: Olympic athlete dies days after being set alight by ex-boyfriend | BBC

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MerchantsOfMisery @lemmy.ml 2y ago

Already did in another comment in this thread, take a look. Cited with the link to the paper.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/1635092/ <--- by all means, look up similar studies done in more recent years and you'll find the same fundamental patterns.

2y ago

Rebecca Cheptegei: Olympic athlete dies days after being set alight by ex-boyfriend | BBC

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MerchantsOfMisery @lemmy.ml 2y ago

Basically 100% of parents who have killed their newborns by throwing them in dumpsters are women.

Is this article about a newborn being killed? Or is it about a woman being killed by her partner? If it's the latter, how often are women killed by their men compared to men being killed by women? If it's the latter, why are you bringing up points relevant to the former? Please, please, please answer these questions. You're engaging in the very logical fallacy you're citing.

If this were a discussion about a black man being killed by a white police officer, would it make any sense to bring up stats about black men killing white police officers? Because that's pretty much what you're doing right now in an attempt to deflect from the main issue. I often see white supremacists in conservative spaces doing this, i.e. mentioning George Floyd's criminal record or irrelevant stats about crime by black men to deflect from Derek Chauvin murdering him, and I think what you're saying is fundamentally no different-- just with women/sexism instead of black men/racism.

Edit: Nevermind, just blocked ya. You're the same clown that said this about women who fear being killed in the USA:

A completely irrational fear in the US at least, given that in a country of 340,000,000, less than 5,000 women are murdered a year. And that’s even if you pretended every single murder was by a rejected man.

Stop letting ideological propaganda make you paranoid.

Fuck off, you hate women and you're trying desperately to gaslight them.

2y ago

Rebecca Cheptegei: Olympic athlete dies days after being set alight by ex-boyfriend | BBC

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MerchantsOfMisery @lemmy.ml 2y ago

This is a discussion about a woman who was murdered, so why on earth would you bring up irrelevant stats? There's a reason why you're deflecting. Your only contribution to this discussion is a comment telling me to "stfu" because you'd rather deflect than confront sexism. The older I get, the less surprised I am to see not so low-key sexism in leftist spaces. You could have made any kind of comment in this thread and all you decided on was "bUt wHat aBoUT [irrelevant subject]".

It's so disappointing, frustrating and downright exhausting. I fully expect this kind of rhetoric from conservatives and liberals but it just sucks to hear it in leftist spaces by people who claim to be allies to marginalized people. I honestly think I'm just going to take a break from online spaces like Lemmy and stick to my one community that just happens to be created/lead by a woman. Shit like this is why so many leftist websites and local clubs just turn into a hangout for mostly white guys cluelessly wondering why there's so little diversity. ✌🏾

2y ago

Rebecca Cheptegei: Olympic athlete dies days after being set alight by ex-boyfriend | BBC

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MerchantsOfMisery @lemmy.ml 2y ago

The problem is that blocking only solves the smaller issue and basically sweeps Lemmy's sexism under the rug instead of addressing why sexism is so prevalent in leftist spaces. And I don't think it's up to women to educate men on this, it's up to men to educate other men on this. We have to keep in mind how exhausting it is for women to 1) deal with sexist shit and then 2) basically be told they have to teach men about [traumatic things that they've been through and shouldn't have to re-experience by talking to men]

2y ago

Discord lowers free upload limit to 10MB: “Storage management is expensive”

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MerchantsOfMisery @lemmy.ml 2y ago

Discord doesn't require a phone number to use it and there's tons of servers that don't require phone number verification. The vast majority of servers I'm in have no phone number requirement. Signal straight will not work without your phone number, in any capacity. I'm sure you'd trust Signal over Discord with your phone number any day of the week but as I said, that's an irrelevant point because we're talking about why people are more attracted to Discord over Signal. Slacks vs ugly cargo pants.

I said that the reason they DONT is because other platform dont have the advertising budget, nor the user base to make users jump ship.

Have you ever seen an ad for Discord? I haven't see one before and I only know about it through word of mouth. There's nothing stopping people from creating Signal groups for various hobbies and including a Signal link in their social media page.

Refusing to use Discord might be noble from a privacy/security point of view but from a broader perspective, you're significantly limiting your social interactions and not because of the people but the app the people are using to communicate with. It's like not using a phone at all because pretty much any phone is a privacy/security issue.

2y ago

Discord lowers free upload limit to 10MB: “Storage management is expensive”

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MerchantsOfMisery @lemmy.ml 2y ago

My guess is Telegram's being bankrolled by entities that are willing to eat the cost of this kind of data usage.

2y ago

Discord lowers free upload limit to 10MB: “Storage management is expensive”

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MerchantsOfMisery @lemmy.ml 2y ago

Exactly. And they didn't even give the 25 MB limit to every user. Some users were always stuck at 8 MB, and others 25 MB. I'm the latter and I was blown away at the decision to cut the file size limit down to 1/3rd of what I was used to.

https://8mb.video/

^ This website will compress videos down to 8 MB but the video quality ends up being awful, plus I'm not so sure how I feel about the privacy/security issues of uploading personal videos to some rando website so they can be compressed.

2y ago

Discord lowers free upload limit to 10MB: “Storage management is expensive”

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MerchantsOfMisery @lemmy.ml 2y ago

That's a feature that was implemented what, 1 or 2 years ago when Signal's been around for a decade?

You can't possibly expect people to just jump from one social app to another that has such a relatively small user base and little familiarity. Entire Discord servers would have to jump ship and it would just be a nightmare for most people.

What Discord prioritizes, Signal treats as an afterthought. Things like group chat, video chat, GIF usage, etc, Signal has never really prioritized.

Discord's mobile and PC apps both allow users to select GIFs within the application, whereas only Signal's mobile app allows users to select GIFs within the application and Signal's desktop app doesn't allow for in-app GIF selection. If you're reading this thinking "who tf cares about stupid stuff like that?", you're completely missing the point because regular ass users care about stuff like that and they totally will say "fuck that" to an alternative if it doesn't have features like this. Why doesn't Signal incorporate in-app GIF selection for its desktop app? I'm sure it will be eventually implemented but dragging their heels like this for popular features and then having the nerve to ask "why aren't people flocking to us instead of Discord/WhatsApp" is such an out of touch question to ask.

When open source developers ask for feedback from regular users and their response to said feedback is"ACKSHUALLY it's your fault, not the application's fault", as it often is, it's no surprise that their software never gains traction. It's like a guy who wears cargo pants to a formal affair and then gets into an argument over attire because in his mind, cargo pants = more pockets = superior, completely oblivious to every other factor.

Another thing-- Signal requires your phone number, Discord doesn't. I know right away folks are going to rage about how Discord is the real privacy nightmare, not Signal. I don't disagree, but the average user is just going to be more wary about being forced to give up their phone number in order to use Signal, even if the software now allows them to hide it.

2y ago

Why do you care about privacy?

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MerchantsOfMisery @lemmy.ml 2y ago

I don't like being misinterpreted.

2y ago

Superhero shows be like

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MerchantsOfMisery @lemmy.ml 2y ago

I feel like this had to have been made by someone who doesn't watch superhero TV shows or movies. I'm watching X-Men right now and it's the complete opposite of this.

2y ago

Discord lowers free upload limit to 10MB: “Storage management is expensive”

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MerchantsOfMisery @lemmy.ml 2y ago

I hope you're right.

2y ago

Bluetooth 6.0 adds centimeter-level accuracy for device tracking — upgraded version also improves device pairing

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MerchantsOfMisery @lemmy.ml 2y ago

I have all kinds of cable extensions specifically to reduce my reliance on BT. Wired bedside headphones and keyboard are the best

2y ago

Discord lowers free upload limit to 10MB: “Storage management is expensive”

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MerchantsOfMisery @lemmy.ml 2y ago

Signal isn't an alternative to Discord. I use both and they're used very differently. Group movie watching for example is pretty easy on Discord.

Digg had users and people jumped ship to Reddit because it was better.

2y ago

Dollar General warns poorer US consumers are running out of money

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MerchantsOfMisery @lemmy.ml 2y ago

And Dollar General is part of the problem, constantly selling garbage-tier products that reek of planned obsolescence. Their entire business model relies on predatory practices that screw over the poorer US consumers they speak of.

Some good news: Dollar General's stock price has been tanking hard since around the end of 2022.

Edit: Also thanks OP for providing a paywall-free link, very much appreciated. I clicked the original link and thought "damnit, if only OP posted a link witho--oooooh, OP did!".

2y ago

Linkin Park reunites with 7 years after Chester Bennington's death, with new music

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MerchantsOfMisery @lemmy.ml 2y ago

She did a good job but this really made me appreciate how unique Chester Bennington's voice was.

Edit: I take it back. She's a Scientologist. Gross.

2y ago

Rebecca Cheptegei: Olympic athlete dies days after being set alight by ex-boyfriend | BBC

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MerchantsOfMisery @lemmy.ml 2y ago

The vast majority of the time a woman is murdered, it's at the hands of a man. Yes.

"Although women comprise more than half the U.S. population, they committed only 14.7% of the homicides noted during the study interval. More than twice as many women were shot and killed by their husband or intimate acquaintance than were murdered by strangers using guns, knives, or any other means."

I'm going to bed but there's countless other studies that show the same trend not just in the USA but in countries across the world. This paper was published in '92 and for those who doubt its legitimacy based on its age, I recommend looking up modern papers on this.

Edit: One last thing before I go to sleep. I'm not making these comments because I want to make men feel bad, or that I think the average guy on Lemmy reading this is a murderer or potential murdered. I'm saying this because as men, we need to cut the bullshit and stop acting like we don't hear other men casually talk about domestic violence, either "jokingly" or dead serious, or that we don't see other men engaging in verbal or physical abuse against women. As a POC, I feel pretty much the same way about racism-- I don't think the average white person is some KKK member but please for the love of god white folks, if you hear someone (especially your friends/family) saying/doing some racist shit, call it out!

Lotta downvotes but no responses to the study I provided. Not at all surprised. Until men are willing to simply acknowledge the existence of this problem, we've got a long way to go. Leftists on Lemmy definitely showing their true colors and it's not surprising, so many leftist spaces get ruined by sexist men who want a safe space where they can discuss racism, transphobia, homophobia but sexism... Nope.