EnthusiasticNature94

EnthusiasticNature94 @lemmy.blahaj.zone 1y ago

'undefined' is such a mood.

EnthusiasticNature94 @lemmy.blahaj.zone 1y ago

Hey, thank you for replying.

I agree that it's faulty to think nobody cares, and I do have some who do care about me.

However, ~75% - 95% of individuals I've encountered have either ignored my dire circumstances, or even actively gone out of their way to invest their time, money, energy, etc. to harm me.

I pay a 'grocery tax' because other self-destructive shoppers at specific stores will ram their carts into me, take pictures of me, etc. I have to either order delivery, or shop at more expensive stores where I haven't experienced this extreme conduct.

I once had a bicycling accident where I had a head-on collision with another bicyclist who another bicyclist accompanied, and I had to do a safety scan of my surroundings and run away immediately since I had no way of knowing if the accompanied bicyclist would get irrationally violent and attack me. The bicyclist I accidentally hit had no safety gear while I did, and they probably died from hitting me head-on - they were unconscious on the ground. I had no way of knowing who they have r*ped, murdered, punched, shot with a gun, stabbed with a knife, fired, slashed tires of, gaslit, etc.

I've since moved out to a safer area, but I still pay a 'grocery tax'. I tried shopping at more affordable grocery stores, and then the same incident happened, so I stole some food as reparations and left a negative review on the place. I've learned that Google Maps will delete negative reviews while Yelp is more representative of the unhinged nonsense that happens, and that store was around 2.5 - 3 stars. The only other 4+ star store I could find was more expensive, and it honestly sucks that I have no other choice.

And don't get me wrong - I am trained in self-defense. I know evidence-based self-defense and used it earlier with the bicycling accident to keep myself safe. My issue isn't keeping myself safe - my issue is that I just want to get through the fucking day without anyone self-destructing on me. That's it. Nothing more, nothing less. But they won't leave me alone.

I'm out of time. Will revise this later. Realized I left our suspicious details of the bicyclists.

EnthusiasticNature94 @lemmy.blahaj.zone 1y ago

Since OP admitted this was "made-up clickbait and satire," I'll just comment for anyone stumbling upon this. You can:

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EnthusiasticNature94 @lemmy.blahaj.zone 1y ago

I hope it works out.

It seems like you thought this through and sought feedback from people.

Either way, this isn't for me.

EnthusiasticNature94 @lemmy.blahaj.zone 1y ago

Ah, got it. Thank you for explaining. 😌

EnthusiasticNature94 @lemmy.blahaj.zone 1y ago

Nah, you're right. I used it wrong.

Bucket lists are usually for life goals, so it's a bit dramatic to say it for a T.V. show.

I was trying to be brief and was also typing in a hurry.

EnthusiasticNature94 @lemmy.blahaj.zone 1y ago

I'm glad Buproprion has few side effects from this chart.

However, for those considering it, here's some missing side effects:

Can increase libido. (A lot.)
Can reduce weight. (A lot.)
Can reduce your appetite/eating. (A lot.)

I'm not saying these are pros or cons. Each person should assess how these side effects will affect their own situation.

EnthusiasticNature94 @lemmy.blahaj.zone 1y ago

I went cuckoo for cocoa puffs long ago.

EnthusiasticNature94 @lemmy.blahaj.zone 1y ago

Thank you for your insight.

I was more concerned about how men reacted to it than the legitimacy or analysis of the 'bear vs man' hypothetical.

EnthusiasticNature94 @lemmy.blahaj.zone 1y ago

Thank you for your insight.

I was more concerned about how men reacted to it than the legitimacy or analysis of the 'bear vs man' hypothetical.

EnthusiasticNature94 @lemmy.blahaj.zone 1y ago

Your logic is undeniable.

However.

Frosted Flakes are gr-r-reat! 🐯

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EnthusiasticNature94 @lemmy.blahaj.zone 1y ago

I agree, but respectfully, I'm not sure what this has to do with my comment. 😭

EnthusiasticNature94 @lemmy.blahaj.zone 1y ago

Thanks for the read.

EnthusiasticNature94 @lemmy.blahaj.zone 1y ago

Yeah, I'm not engaging with the bear vs man debate, lol.

I'm more concerned about how some reacted to it than the debate itself.

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EnthusiasticNature94 @lemmy.blahaj.zone 1y ago

Also, somewhat off-topic, but since you mentioned sharing important explanations to others, I have some that have worked for me. Feel free to disregard if they're not helpful for you.

What I personally found persuasive when speaking with men is citing the research that 87% of rapes against women by men are explained by repeat offenders, which is 3% of men. That means 5 out of 6 rapes are done by a very, very small portion of men.

And it might explain some of the disconnect. 95% of men didn't rape anyone, so they might be genuinely confused at the strong reaction.

I also explain that rape causes the equivalent of $122,461 in damages to the victims. This is just what is quantifiable and measurable via econometrics - the subjective damage is obviously much higher (and I am personally seeking reparations for much higher than this based on my own calculations).

5% odds with a random man might not initially seem that bad to some until I explain that it's equivalent to rolling a nat 1 in D&D. That and you are literally rolling a 1d20 for each man you encounter, so unless you only meet at most 19 men in your lifetime, you're expected on average to roll at least 1 nat 1.

I also explain that addressing rape culture benefits men, too. About 1 in 3 men are raped in their lifetimes, and about 40% of women blame victims and survivors (of all genders). Also, in the majority of states and countries across the world, it is not legally possible, either in theory or in practice, for cis men to be raped. That, and a lot of (anecdotal and not measured, but I'll be measuring this one day) individuals, both men and women, believe that as long as no penetration happens, it's not rape. This belief is not just used to the benefit of cis male rapists against cis female victims ("It's not rape as long as I don't penetrate her."), but also been used against both cis male victims and lesbian cis female victims (by other cis women).

Often times, the counterarguments I receive are against the impressions left by bystander intervention training. I actually suspect that bystander intervention training is at best a profitable way to exploit funds for victims and survivors, and at worst a covert sabotage to create a bad defense for addressing rape culture. We don’t have good evidence yet that perpetrator-focused strategies actually work, and most strategies that have been rigorously evaluated are not only ineffective at preventing rapes, but sometimes increase false rape accusations against black men and decreases women's empowerment by reinforcing harmful stereotypes. Please, please stop funding, promoting, or supporting bystander intervention training, or at least fund a randomized controlled trial (RCT) of a bystander intervention training program to measure its impact (and it would give strong, nearly irrefutable evidence in support of it if it actually works). As stated earlier, 95% of men don't even rape, so the training doesn't do anything for them. And for the 3% repeat offenders who explain 87% of rapes, well, I, and many others, suspect that serial rapists are probably not going to stop just because some training to tells them to. That, and ~80% of rapes are done by people you know, in private or secluded spaces. It's very rare for some random man to jump out of a bush and rape you then and there. Bystanders can only intervene if they are actually nearby.

I don't have the names of research papers memorized off the top of my head, but all of these are Google-able.

I did a lot of edits trying to recollect all the discussions I've personally had. Hopefully these cover 80% of those conversations.

EnthusiasticNature94 @lemmy.blahaj.zone 1y ago

Thank you. I was hard on myself, but the course was upfront that the exams would be challenging on purpose.

My understanding is that the grades are curved. I still feel bummed about the questions I missed, but from what I've heard from my classmates, I probably did relatively better even though I felt like I fell short.

The stuff I'm working on is too important for me to make mistakes, so I am especially hard on myself. I often feel like I'm the only one solving the problems that I am.

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