I'm just here to say I don't want to read AI generated texts. Not even when marked as such. I prefer human to human communication. Generation quality isn't there yet by a long shot.
Hey! I got my diagnosis the same age as you are now.
I think giving those struggles a name and knowing what to Google for when looking up help, that is adding adhd to search, made things a bit easier.
Plus knowing I'm not lazy and incompetent is nice. My brain works in a way which makes daily life as most people have it tricky is all.
For me when I get tasks thrown at me while doing something, I just stop. That doesn't work for me at all.
I need all tasks upfront, then I make a list and order how I'll do them, hopefully. My partner and I both know this and adjust accordingly. But we've been doing this since way before my or her diagnosis.
We both found out in our mid thirties we got adhd. I got diagnosed when I was treated for depression. When reading up on it I basically diagnosed my wife and she got properly diagnosed a while after.
TLDR for your issue Imo In the end it doesn't matter if it's an adhd thing or now. Talk it out and find a way to distribute tasks which works for both of you.
I've tried it a few times but so far it made things worse. Knowing there is a timer running just distracts me so much. Like I want to look at it or at least I think about it all the time.
Those things break more on me than they work. Even my 3D printer is less work.