Running into issues logging into my lemm.ee account. I'm putting in the correct email/username and password, but I'm getting "incorrect login" in response. I can log in via browser just fine, so it doesn't appear to be the instance.
Hello, other trans person here questioning what part of my statement gave you the impression that I'm saying you have control over who you're attracted to. The entire idea I've said several times now is that if your attraction to someone is only overridden by the fact that they're trans rather than any actual physical or emotional traits they have, then at that point there's nothing to do with your sexual, emotional, or physical attraction to someone and just boils down to a prejudice against trans people. Any trait that might actually determine someone's attraction towards a person is not a single shared trait that all of us have.
If you think that a relationship is the line where that prejudice is considered okay, that's for you to decide and I wont stop you. Everyone is going to have prejudices regarding potential partners, I'm married but personally wouldn't have dated someone with even vaguely conservative views for instance. But whether it makes cis people uncomfortable or not, it is prejudiced to ignore all attraction towards us just because we're trans and for no other reason.
Of course lemmy.world went down right as I finished writing my response and made me lose everything lmao
Anyhow none of what you said contradicts the point I'm trying to make, which I've evidently failed miserably at making even with an edit.
I'm not saying you have to go out and get a trans girlfriend. What I'm trying to get at is that, as you noted, it's possible for a trans woman to meet the requirements a cishet man might have for traits such as genitals, personality, voice, height, body type, etc. This hypothetical cishet dude doesn't have to be attracted to every trans woman, just like how it would be insane if he was attracted to every cis woman. But if that perfect trans woman showed up, who meets every possible requirement for the guy, and he still doesn't want to date her because she's trans, then that is prejudice against trans people.
There's probably going to still be a disconnect on this despite my best efforts and this whole thing will probably get slammed with downvotes too. I'm rephrasing an argument based off of what I mostly remember saying in my original reply to this before world shit the bed, and plus this is a conversation about LGBT people happening in a comment section full of (presumably) cishet people. Getting within 1000 yards of the possibility that they aren't perfect allies with absolutely no internalized bias or prejudice is going to get people defensive. But hell, I'm several letters in LGBT and I've got internalized homophobia and transphobia that I'm trying to sort out, the point I'm trying to make here wasn't an easy one for me to consider either when it was said by someone way smarter than me.
Pansexuality is broader than bisexuality, and people who identify as pansexual may be attracted to people of all genders. Bisexuality is the attraction to two or more genders, but not necessarily all.
The terms broadly overlap, but the distinction matters to some people and that's okay.
If you're refusing to date someone solely because they're trans, then yeah it kinda is. Things like genital preference, the person "passing", etc are preferences you're certainly allowed to have, but are going to apply on a case by case basis. If you're otherwise attracted to someone and the only deal breaker is the fact that they're trans, that's by definition a prejudice against trans people.
Edit: listen nobody is forcing yall to date a trans person. What I'm saying is that most valid hang ups someone might have don't apply to every trans person, there's gonna be trans people with the junk/body type/voice/whatever else that you're into. So refusing to date someone just because they're trans is the prejudiced part, not whatever personal preference you have that's gonna stop you from dating some or most trans folks.
Judging by their username and a glance through their comments, I'm going to guess that this person has dissociative identity disorder and is using the signature to note which alter made the comment. Definitely a bit jarring though, and maybe I'm wrong and it's just an odd quirk with how they comment.
That's certainly an unpopular opinion. I love rereading Calvin and Hobbes strips. Maybe it's a heaping portion of nostalgia goggles bringing me back to being a little kid learning how to read via comics, but I find all the newspaper strips I grew up with really comforting, none more so than C&H
It's specifically because of something written in the forward. I don't remember the exact quote now, but it got pointed out that he doesn't put villains in his stories, to which he replies that he learned that in the war. It flipped a switch in teenage me's brain and I started forming my own opinions after that.
It's subtle only in the sense that most regular people don't know what the black sun is. My wife got me this keychain that had some pagan symbols on it with a black sun snuck in as well, she had no idea until I told her.
Severe abuse by the church made me firmly anti religion for most of my youth, and then meeting religious people of varied faiths who weren't monsters softened my feelings as I realized it wasnt all entirely evil. Then studying some of my family's roots brought me where I am now: vaguely pagan while still acknowledging that I'm always going to be culturally Christian. I like to just tell people I'm a "recovering Catholic" for brevity and a laugh.
As for my social and political views, it was seeing all my friends come out as queer and realizing that I could either keep the far right views my family taught me, or I could learn to get my head out of my ass to keep my found family. Once I started forming my own opinions, I realized I got fed a load of shit my whole life(and also I'd wind up coming out too lmao)
I think it's difficult for most comedy to stand the test of time(not all obviously). I went back and watched Bo Burnham's older work after watching Inside. At the time, that stuff was hilarious, but now it makes me cringe hard.
No to both