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Hacksaw

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  • Please help me under stand my spouse's gift and their hurt

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  • Nobody is a bad person here and both of your feelings are valid.

    As others pointed out, your partner likely put significant effort into the gift and is hurt that the effort was in vain. Compounding that is the fact that you didn't seem to acknowledge their effort or treat their hurt as valid.

    Your hurt is valid. You got given something you don't want and now you feel pressured to accept it to appease your partner. It's in certain ways worse than getting nothing.

    The situation sucks and you'll both be hurt regardless of how you resolve it.

    It's probably going to be very important for you two to work out gifts or gift giving occasions. What do you like to do, for yourself or with your partner. Maybe the answer to that question can be part of the solution.

    For the time being you have a few options. You can keep the gift like the others have said, maybe as a backup. Or you can return it. I suggest that if you return it you spend the money on something you both enjoy, maybe a nice date to sooth the hurt.

    Let your partner know that you appreciate the effort that went into this gift. Let them know that you know you're a hard person to buy for, especially because you're not very consumerist which means that the things typically for sale won't appeal to you. Let them know that it's important for you that you're both able to express love towards each other and that you want to make sure that the next time your partner expends significant effort for you that they're able to create a situation which is rewarding for the both of you.

    Then sort out what you're going to do with this gift. Maybe explain your feelings about using the old device and how the new one can't do that for you.

    Then make a plan to work out the line term goal of how you'll give each other gifts/experiences in the future. And actually do it. It might be a lot of work, but it will probably create a lot of joy in your relationship in the long run where there might have been even more pain.

  • Devastating Report Details How Underage Homeless Girl Allegedly Had Sex With Matt Gaetz For Money to Buy Braces

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  • There are always people defending these creeps who seek out the youngest most vulnerable sexual partners they can legally fuck. You don't realise that in saying "he didn't know she was 17" you're claiming this behaviour is otherwise okay.

    An old man, fucking an 18 year old is like a fast food boss paying his employees minimum wage: if you could legally get away with less you would. Finding these creeps "accidentally" fucking children is like the manager "accidentally" entering fewer hours on your timesheet every week. You have to be a real dope to believe it was an accident.

  • SNAP Recipients Crushed by Democrats Caving on Shutdown: “They Just Wasted It All”

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  • Even if the Senate Republicans vote for the bill, the house Republicans can just choose not to have a vote because the speaker chooses which bills are voted on.

  • Progressives Tell Dems Thinking of Capitulating to GOP on Shutdown: 'You Cave, You Lose'

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  • Oh no, you see they're "not rich enough to make a difference", so they're allowed to do nothing. Since the definition is intrinsic to them they'll never be "rich enough" to help and they'll always "help when I'm rich enough to make a difference". So they can always be good people while doing nothing and they can always chastise the rich for "not doing enough" no matter how much they're helping because "if they were that rich they'd help more"

    It's really beautiful actually how perfect the system is.

  • How many cars are needed

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  • People ARE assholes like that, but they will take nice public transit if it's convenient. Especially if you want to have a drink or two going out or to a friend's house.

    Sometimes if it's really convenient people take it instead of driving in rush hour which helps everyone!

  • Portland police order ICE protesters’ tents cleared, warn of stepped-up enforcement to come

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  • Cops are always on the side of fascists, even in blue cities.

  • 2 Illinois National Guard members speak out: "I won't turn against my neighbors"

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  • Yup. I hope they start something BIG!

  • 2 Illinois National Guard members speak out: "I won't turn against my neighbors"

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  • Good luck to those two. Unless a significant portion of the military and national guard reject orders they're just going to get court martialed.

    https://youtu.be/TwPLqGkYnBA

    Basically if you're in the army you HAVE TO obey orders. "I was just following orders" is enshrined as a legal defense for everything except overtly criminal acts like genocide, killing babies, etc... even if the order was otherwise illegal. On the other hand, disobeying an order you think might be illegal means you will be arrested and held until a judge decides if the order was legal or not.

    The only way this works is if their fellow military members and National guard all refuse to obey these illegal orders to hurt their fellow countrymen.

  • Halloween costumes

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  • This is a bullshit take that Monika Lewinsky denies even now

    This was a mutual relationship, mutual on all levels, right from the way it started and all the way through.

    If you can make a criticism it's that Clinton blamed the whole thing on her being a seductive harlot including in his book after the presidency. But you certainly can't just decide she's a victim in a sexual relationship because you feel like it's true, that's the opposite of believe women and you're undermining her agency

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Monica_Lewinsky

  • They were made in a factory. A bomb factory. They're bombs.

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  • Oh yeah I'll drop it... With my NO ARMS ... you insensitive piece of poop

  • They were made in a factory. A bomb factory. They're bombs.

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  • Insuranace is a joke

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  • The minimum liability insurance isn't a scam. If you hit someone and cripple them you'll be glad for insurance to pay their medical etc...

    Comprehensive is absolutely a scam. Just take the money and save it, maybe buy some bonds. Then when it's time to buy a new car (or when you get your car totaled) you're already half way to a new car.

  • Best stay away from that guy

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  • But don't stay TOO far away, otherwise you can still be a victim of arrows. There is in ideal distance to THAT GUY to minimize your arrow related risks.

  • Transgender woman asked by Niagara police officer for 'deadname' files Ontario human rights complaint

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  • the officers had demanded she stop filming and give her name, which she refused

    Oh no she was filming.... Definitely worth spending police time investigating. If they can't articulate a suspected crime that can't detain you or order you to present documentation.

    Stop the boot licking. This isn't a case of a rightful arrest where she was impeding the investigation by not revealing past legal names and aliases.

  • Fox News Host Bizarrely Declares AOC Wants to Sleep With Stephen Miller

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  • If you watch the clip it's evident he wants to sleep with Miller

  • AI has had zero effect on jobs so far, says Yale study

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  • A cartoonist's review of AI art - The Oatmeal

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  • Who even cares about the quality. That makes it seem like a solvable problem. AI use is fundamentally alienating. No amount of quality redeems this fact, when you see an AI generated person your brain is registering a non-human as a human. When you draft an AI generated email or report you're allowing a machine to communicate with other humans using its voice. Reading content changes your brain, this used to mean changing your brain TOWARDS another human, AI generated content means your brain is changing towards a machine's language.

    This might not seem so bad if it were not that these machines are owned and controlled by a person. Everytime you use or consume AI you alienate yourself from other humans and bind yourself to a rich person's machine.

    Marx envisioned private ownership of the means of production as alienating a worker from his labour. Never did he imagine private ownership of the means of production alienating a human from his humanity whether he works or not.

  • Let's remember ...The Hannibal Directive

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  • No one said anything about Jewish people, conflating the actions of a Zionist genocidal settler colonial state with that of every Jewish person internationally is dangerous for Jews worldwide and increases anti-Semitism globally.

    In the US 60% of Jews believe Israel is committing war crimes. Are these people anti-Semitic?

  • Why are fruits and berries healthy, even though they are mostly just sugar?

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  • While there are essential fats and proteins, there are no essential sugars. Your body can work perfectly fine indefinitely without any sugars of any kind.

  • When Miscarriages Become Crimes - 412 women faced criminal charges for pregnancy outcomes. This is what fetal personhood looks like.

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  • I don't really see that. People are generally paid to take on that responsibility or have otherwise agreed to it. They can generally end that responsibility when they want to. If anything what you said is a pro abortion argument. I don't think there is any framework where sex is an agreement to raise a baby, nor do I think anyone is committing any crime taking any action to terminate a pregnancy. Forced birth is the crime.