Not a huge help, but I have a similar situation with my partner. Both ways. I'm autistic and she's NT. Being really transparent helps us. Especially worth discussing at a time when you're both feeling better.
Yeah I hear you, do you use an oldschool charger rather than a modern high wattage one? Mine got hot with one charger but I swapped to a lower wattage one. It definitely doesn't perform a proper USB C handshake.
Ah I have the newer model and haven't had issues. Doesn't seem to get hot. Been playing GBA mostly but Dreamcast and Portmaster (stardew valley and balatro) as well. Wonder if yours had a defect or if the newer model just sorts those issues. I'm on Big Banana MUOS at the moment.
I like that we can get both indie and AAA and that indie developers can successfully create a whole of the former without big business. Not many places any more where a single person can offer a quality product that sits next to a business' with hundreds of millions of investment.
I like Debian for the same reason.