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1y ago

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not a metaphor for anything
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Azzu @lemm.ee 1y ago

I don't want you to walk next to me on the street. The view of you pisses me off.
Is that wrong? Or am I allowed to tell you where you shall walk?
If the person truly doesn't mean no offense with "dipshit" but you still take offense from it, that's what I'm talking about.
Same as walking on the street, if you don't want to see the person, just don't go on the street close to them. If you don't want to hear something they're saying then don't speak to them, avoid them.
I already said that if someone doesn't want to be called dipshit, then there's no reason to keep calling them that.

1y ago

How do I make a product?

Ideas are incredibly cheap. It's absolutely unlikely that no one ever had your idea. It's even likely that someone had your idea and it failed, and you don't/can't even know about it because no one bothered to record the failure.

Other people have mentioned all kinds of ambitious/proper ways to do this. I've got a different view: if you truly think this will work, do a basic version yourself.

Learn basic blender, design 3D printed parts yourself and let someone print them. Use some app builder and tutorials, or hire a programmer for a very rudimentary prototype work. Buy generic electronics. Just get it working once. Then show it to people, let them use it, ask if they would buy it, preferably let them sign a slip of paper not to talk about this product or compete with it (there are standard NDA/non-compete contract clauses online available) or talk to people you can trust.

If you do all this and get positive feedback, then you can start doing this properly and get more people on it, like the other commenters mentioned.

1y ago

How do I make a product?

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Azzu @lemm.ee 1y ago

No. Just no. You're talking about perfectionism basically. Who cares about continuing maintenance? If you get the product out there and working enough to last the 2 years warranty, you're completely fine. One programmer is perfectly capable of learning the most basic things about the disciplines you mentioned, it doesn't need to be good, it just needs to do its job mostly.

You have no clue about the scope of what this guy's idea is since he gave no info. Maybe it's so simple not even one programmer would have to work on it for very long.

Of course, what you say is perfectly possible to be "correct", but you just have no way of knowing.

1y ago

not a metaphor for anything

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Azzu @lemm.ee 1y ago

I think both is problematic.

If you know that dipshit is not meant in a harmful way by the other person, then why do you care being called it?

Same on the other side, if you know the other person wouldn't like to be called dipshit, why would you call them that?

I really think they both have problems that they need to address within themselves.

1y ago

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Azzu @lemm.ee 1y ago

Dating requires incredible mental resilience. People are traumatized. People are selfish. People are rude. People are struggling. You will have to be able to deal with all kinds of unpleasant behaviors.

Most of the time, these unpleasant behavior have literally nothing to do with you, because people are just self-centered, the hero of their own story, not seeing others as truly equal, putting you into neat little boxes you don't really fit in, or so many other reasons.

Even if you're the most perfect person in the world, literally the most attractive, literally with perfect people skills, you'd miss out on at least 70% of connections just because of the random shortcomings of the other person or tertiary events. So you have to be able to deal with the fact that most interactions will not work out.

But for your and everyone's psyche, every failure is a blow to the ego. So you will always get more blows to your ego than getting it stroked with a success. So it's completely natural to feel like you do, that there's an issue with you. But it's just simply not true.

The only way to do this dating thing is do it exactly as much as you can handle another rejection. Optimally, you'll be so comfortable by yourself that you literally don't care about rejection, because you're so comfortable already anyway, so why should a rejection matter? You'd just return to being comfortable alone.

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Azzu @lemm.ee 1y ago

I mean, meh. I never would've gotten together with people if I hadn't just followed whatever they were comfortable with. I wrote for like 3 weeks about the deepest shit before I met up with someone, still together with that person. With others, I do exchange 3 messages and then meet up.

It's more about genuinely being interested in the other person, getting them out of their "shell", i.e. talking about what they truly want, by being truly open yourself. So in a sense what you say is true though, if you wanna meet, you should tell them you wanna meet.

I've also been successful re-establishing "ghosted" connections just by saying what I feel like "huh I thought we had a good connection here, apparently I misjudged that, anyway, hope you have a good one :)"

Of course there'll be many where you're just too different to build a connection, too incompatible, or just too much unrelated shit getting in the way. But there's just no single script to follow. Except just saying what you want/feel, and truly listening.

1y ago

This is some true intimacy

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Azzu @lemm.ee 1y ago

It's so interesting how beliefs like this do indeed make the reality that way.

1y ago

How can we make lemmy have more relevance?

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Azzu @lemm.ee 1y ago

It's already unique. I can't get what I get here anywhere else.

1y ago

Dog found after 529 days of being lost on an island

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Azzu @lemm.ee 1y ago

Always :D as long as you don't smell and are decently attractive. I like hugs!

1y ago

Dog found after 529 days of being lost on an island

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Azzu @lemm.ee 1y ago

Those eyes say nothing like that. You have no real clue what these eyes say. You just like to anthropomorphize this dog and attach your own human narrative to it. You're free to do it, just don't state it as fact.

1y ago

As l promoted a bikini community l've recently created, someone advised me to create it on lemmynsfw.com. lsn't a bikini something pretty commonplace in the West ?

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Azzu @lemm.ee 1y ago

Of course you can create it basically anywhere. But if you're going to allow posting of pictures of women in bikinis, your community will be mainly used to masturbate, that much is guaranteed. So if that is the case, it makes complete sense to put it on lemmynsfw.com.

I'm not sure how many are actually interested directly in bikinis. I.e. if there was no woman attached to them, would people actually like and comment on pictures of bikinis, or start discussion threads about topics related to bikinis? I mean sure, there are probably some people, but I'm also pretty sure they're vastly outnumbered by people interested in bikinis because a woman is clothed by them.

1y ago

Traveling Salesman is NP-Hard, yet Uber Eats delivery route optimization algorithms exist

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Azzu @lemm.ee 1y ago

But isn't "pick up multiple orders at a restaurant, then figuring out in which order to deliver them to minimize time spent delivering" the traveling salesman problem? I thought that's what the post referred to.

1y ago

How do I find communities on lemmy.world?? I'm new

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Azzu @lemm.ee 1y ago

https://lemmyverse.net/communities

1y ago

They even call it a "void" both times!

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Azzu @lemm.ee 1y ago

The Next Generation S2E02 "Where Silence Has Lease"

The Enterprise encounters a mysterious void

1y ago

How is it to have very pale skin in America?

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Azzu @lemm.ee 1y ago

You're likely gonna experience racism in some form in any community you go to where you are the minority. People are racist, not people of some specific skin color.

So your assessment is correct, if you go to a majority black community you're probably gonna find people racist against white people.

But when you go to the US, white is still the majority. And if you're not the majority, you're mostly still a large part. Statistically, the most racism you'll experience is everyday racism, where maybe some black people believe you're an asshole even though you aren't. Most of the time you're not going to experience anything.

1y ago

Where can I post a referral link? Makes me money and makes the other person about $20 within 10~12 mins

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Azzu @lemm.ee 1y ago

So they have a dedicated space for spam. Still is spam.

1y ago

From your standards, are abusive people or those who cause trauma/discrimination “evil”?

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Azzu @lemm.ee 1y ago

I don't necessarily think people can be evil.

I know of some of my abusers that they were abused themselves. They knew what they were doing to me wasn't right but it gave them feelings of power in a world where they otherwise felt powerless.

For others, bullying me was a social sport, just something you did to "belong" to a certain group.

I think what they did was evil, but I don't think they were evil people. They were normal people with inadequate upbringing put into painful situations that resulted in bullying/abusing me being the only perceived "good" outcome for them. For almost all people who do evil things, this is the case.

I think we all possess the ability to do evil acts in response to certain stimuli, many are just lucky enough never to receive the set of stimuli that causes them to be evil, so they can allow themselves to think they are different, i.e. "good", and start labeling other people a certain way, i.e. "evil".

Conversely, I also think all the people who do evil acts are also able to do good acts in certain situations.

What we then call a "good" or an "evil person" is just a person where we perceive a larger share of behaviors attributed to that adjective. But are they evil or good people, is that a quality inherent to them? Or is the environment they grew up in evil or good? Or are humans in general evil or good? Is our perception of the share of each set of behaviors even right?

I think no one deserves for their whole self to be called evil. I think you can call actions evil, and some people may have a lot of these actions, and they're worthy of being avoided because of that, but I believe they're the same kind of person than everyone else, just put into terrible situations. So no, I don't think people can be evil.

1y ago

Does this make me a bad person?

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Azzu @lemm.ee 1y ago

Interesting. Thanks for sharing. How did those encounters affect you?

1y ago

What would you like to be when you grow up?

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Azzu @lemm.ee 1y ago

What's stopping you? No money? :D

1y ago

Cooking for one - looking for suggestions

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Azzu @lemm.ee 1y ago

Just follow (good) recipes. Use recipes from a recipe aggregator (I use Chefkoch because German) that has multiple recipes of the same dish that users can rate to determine which recipes are "good".

Most of them have a "preparation time" scale, just use the ones with an acceptable one for you.

When you don't know cooking well yet, you should start doing this so you learn the techniques and things to look out for.

I'd cook a big tray of eggplant lasagna and freeze most of it, so I have food for multiple days. Once you know a recipe well, it's generally a big cooking time saver to make a lot of it and then freeze.